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Notes from Nonviolent Communication by Marshall B. Rosenberg

Componenents of NVC

1. observation
2. feeling
3. needs
4. request

Two parts of NVC

1. expression honestly through the four components
2. receiving empathically through the four components

Communication that Blocks Compassion

• Analyses of others are actually expressions of our own needs and values
• Classifying and judging pople promote violence
• Comparisions area a form of judgement
• Our language obscures awareness of personal responsibility
• We can replace language that implies lack of choice with language that acknowledges choice
• We are dangerous when we are not conscious of our responsibility for how we behave, think, and feel
• We can never make people do anything
• Thinking based on "who deserves what" blocks compassionate communication
• Life-alienating communication has deep philosophical and political roots

Observing Without Evaluating

• When we combine observation with evaluation, people are apt to hear criticism